I haven’t found love like the one I felt at fourteen😩, if they had asked me to donate my kidney to that boy, I’d have done it😭 everybody in my school knew his name cause I wouldn’t stop talking about him even though he wasn’t in my school. He lived behind my house so on my 15th birthday I think, he got me a pack of snacks and drinks, he threw it over the fence, I picked it and hid it in my wardrobe😭😂 our room windows faced each other so he’d sing softly for me at night sometimes, he even sang assurance by davido😂 my all time fave was Photograph by Ed sheeran.
Bottom line, we’re no longer together. He’s a great guy and I wish him the very best. We’re still friends tho.
I experienced this kind of love and even though we are strangers now, I'm glad I did.
We were in Jss2, he was 'the new boy' and the most beautiful boy I've ever seen. In the beginning I thought of him as an "Okay Guy" but to him, I was more than just "Ok", he was totally smitten.
He became my best friend, confidant, companion, and someone that constantly forced me to eat properly.
That was 10 years ago.
Now, he's just something I and my therapist talk about.
Ñah I am not shocked that you are a total softie, I see how you "mummy" everyone in circle, but what shocked me is that you published a book. A whole book, Osas!!
Honestly fr. I love love too😭 but I’m never lucky when it comes to love. It’s either I end up with someone playing hard to get because of my hard girl attitude or someone who’s shy to express their feelings there always a but
Tbf, i really didn't want to reply to this issue but after reading and seeing how you've commanded me to, i think this is worth sharing here. I hope this is a safe space.
So it was just five days ago,, someone hit me up on WhatsApp after seeing a post about my podcast on a wa group and we've been chatting frequently since then. On Friday, one question led to the other... For some reason, oga suspected I wasn't straight and after consistently telling him that I was. He then asked about my love interests/relationships present and past. I had to tell him my VERY PATHETIC love story. I wouldn't even call it one so, buckle up bc this is how i typed it in the chat;
Okay so the gist is:
1. Never have i ever been in a relationship.
2. My first crush was a girl in primary school. Primary 6 actually. We were actually good friends but we then went to separate secondary schools and that was that.
3. Got to secondary school amd had a crush on another girl from JS1 till SS2. Crazy. I know. Didn't act on it. But we were always found together. Really good friends and i think we both knew we liked each other but i think our ideologies and beliefs at tha time prevented us from exploring what could've been. 4. In ss2 we were both split into different arms bc the number of science students was too much for one class. And i also observed she had taken keen interest in another guy who apparently had a growth sprout and gotten ripped during the holidays before we started ss2 1st term and i slowly distanced myself and focused on my new class. More like i got too invested in my school work/prefect work lol.
5. Didn't know it was so bad till i got to ss3 and loosened up a bit, went to my classmates house and bonded with some of the guys. There was a day everyone were reminiscing about ss2 and our past classes and i found out that the girl i had a long crush on had a big fight about me with two other girls i honestly wouldn't have expected to like me in that way in ss2. Shit was wild to me lmao. I also got to hear about eho was dating who back in ss2 and ss3 that i had no idea whatsoever about. The tea was very shocking to me.
6. I and the other girl i had a crush on, Blessing are still close. we still check up on each other and chat almost too frequently just that she schools in AAU and i don't like her in that manner anymore. Just platonic lol. I may ask her her all about it tho when we meet... Idk6. Fast forward to 2021, i had a crush on this girl in the lecture i attended for jamb and it was obvious i liked her but i wasn't sure she did. I still didn't ask her out or tell her anything. I just didn't think I'm ready for a relationship especially when i had other priorities at the time. I just couldn't handle that kind of commitment or maybe I'm a shy guy idk.
7. Oh i forgot about one girl in church who told me she liked me (more like i found out about it and asked her if she did) and long story, short, i told her i wasn't interested💀8. 2022 now in uni. 100lvl. Crushed on 2 girls in my department but as time passed, i realised nah... Until the last day of our second semester exams and one of the girls and i walked to nadia together to get bread and took a bus back to our hostels. We had a really long and good conversation. Got to know more about each other and i guess the feelings rekindled but when we came back after the break i said nothing. At that time there was this other girl I've gotten close to from another department.
Anywho, i asked told the nadia girl how i felt but girl said "i was too young for her". Apparently she's 26. Shock of my life😂😂😂 bc girl was short with a slender body. You'd think she was 20 at best. She also said she had a boyfriend. So i kept my distance only for her to call me to tell me that i no longer keep her company lmao. Aunty rest.
Currently, i like this other girl from the other department. We often went to night class together in 100lvl. Cooked for each other and stuff. We went to the same lecture with the other lecture girl but we didn't really speak to each other until we got admitted into uniben.
Bro this girl is foine! But I'm scared of botching wha we have. What if she says she only likes me platonically? Mind you, i made up my mind to tell at the pharmacy bonfire. Convinced her to come after saying repeatedly tha she can't only for her to tag along with one other guy from pharmacy that has also een there since night class times. And i just let it go. Shot pissed me off and i never ever thought i could get jealous like that. She called me when our faculty finished our exams (we're both in bms faculty) and was like i no longer check up on her and shit. I apologised we talked but it's been pretty normal since then. I may tell her i may not idk.
My heart melted. I feel like a milk doughnut that was just torn in half. Omg, I'm about to cry. I love that you got to experience that type of soft love as a teenager. There's a certain innocence to it that's bringing tears to my eyes. What a stellar gentleman that was too! Love sweet die, wallahi. Thanks, Osas. This was really good.
I just honestly love love!🥹😂 It's how giggly and googley - eyed I was while reading this newsletter. I haven't experienced this fourteen-year old giggly love yet, but I just know I'm a lover girl! Hopefully soon sha. Obviously, this was well written as usual🥹❤️
I had almost the same experience but in my own case, he came from a different parish and it was just a three days convention in my church, he was the drummer and he was soooo sleek with it, his father was a senior pastor, he was so cute and we stole glances alotttt, he was finee.
After the service, outside the church, I was helping the moms distribute takeaways for the convention, I felt someone touched my hair and i turned to look, he had put a flower in my hair. God I love how we were so bold as teenagers! I smiled and he told me I was beautiful.
Convention was over and it was back to real life. I thought about it from time to time cause in our own case we didn’t exchange contacts we were younger than 14 👀 and I didn’t have a phone.
Fast forward to like 2 years later I had just joined a new school, I saw him walk out of this other school opposite my new school, I saw him and he saw me but I could tell he didn’t remember me, it broke me a little cause I know I spent those two years searching his name on facebook and i didn’t find it, I’m sure he would never use that name on social media cause it was a funny surname that I don’t remember anymore, but David was cute and there was this sparkle in his eyes and I can still see him being sleek with the drum sets in my memory.
When I say younger than 14 I mean way younger 😭, I mean he could have been older but from a young age I have always been a idk if to say lover, I was 11.
Thank you for this letter big sister,
I haven’t found love like the one I felt at fourteen😩, if they had asked me to donate my kidney to that boy, I’d have done it😭 everybody in my school knew his name cause I wouldn’t stop talking about him even though he wasn’t in my school. He lived behind my house so on my 15th birthday I think, he got me a pack of snacks and drinks, he threw it over the fence, I picked it and hid it in my wardrobe😭😂 our room windows faced each other so he’d sing softly for me at night sometimes, he even sang assurance by davido😂 my all time fave was Photograph by Ed sheeran.
Bottom line, we’re no longer together. He’s a great guy and I wish him the very best. We’re still friends tho.
Now you're taking me to where I no wan go😩
I experienced this kind of love and even though we are strangers now, I'm glad I did.
We were in Jss2, he was 'the new boy' and the most beautiful boy I've ever seen. In the beginning I thought of him as an "Okay Guy" but to him, I was more than just "Ok", he was totally smitten.
He became my best friend, confidant, companion, and someone that constantly forced me to eat properly.
That was 10 years ago.
Now, he's just something I and my therapist talk about.
Thank you for this letter, now give the phone back to the Real Osas. 😭😭😭
At almost 23, I can say that I'm just experiencing the 14-year old teenage love. So pure, genuine and free. S/O to my man🥺
Waking up to your newsletter has just made my day! 😩
As the Ogbonge hard girl that I am, I can tell you that I'm still yet to experience my fourteen-year-old giggly teenage love.
Oluwa shanu wa 😂😩
Being an actual 14 year old.. I felt at peace that my feelings were not the devil and it was just normal so for that I thank you
Ñah I am not shocked that you are a total softie, I see how you "mummy" everyone in circle, but what shocked me is that you published a book. A whole book, Osas!!
Honestly fr. I love love too😭 but I’m never lucky when it comes to love. It’s either I end up with someone playing hard to get because of my hard girl attitude or someone who’s shy to express their feelings there always a but
Tbf, i really didn't want to reply to this issue but after reading and seeing how you've commanded me to, i think this is worth sharing here. I hope this is a safe space.
So it was just five days ago,, someone hit me up on WhatsApp after seeing a post about my podcast on a wa group and we've been chatting frequently since then. On Friday, one question led to the other... For some reason, oga suspected I wasn't straight and after consistently telling him that I was. He then asked about my love interests/relationships present and past. I had to tell him my VERY PATHETIC love story. I wouldn't even call it one so, buckle up bc this is how i typed it in the chat;
Okay so the gist is:
1. Never have i ever been in a relationship.
2. My first crush was a girl in primary school. Primary 6 actually. We were actually good friends but we then went to separate secondary schools and that was that.
3. Got to secondary school amd had a crush on another girl from JS1 till SS2. Crazy. I know. Didn't act on it. But we were always found together. Really good friends and i think we both knew we liked each other but i think our ideologies and beliefs at tha time prevented us from exploring what could've been. 4. In ss2 we were both split into different arms bc the number of science students was too much for one class. And i also observed she had taken keen interest in another guy who apparently had a growth sprout and gotten ripped during the holidays before we started ss2 1st term and i slowly distanced myself and focused on my new class. More like i got too invested in my school work/prefect work lol.
5. Didn't know it was so bad till i got to ss3 and loosened up a bit, went to my classmates house and bonded with some of the guys. There was a day everyone were reminiscing about ss2 and our past classes and i found out that the girl i had a long crush on had a big fight about me with two other girls i honestly wouldn't have expected to like me in that way in ss2. Shit was wild to me lmao. I also got to hear about eho was dating who back in ss2 and ss3 that i had no idea whatsoever about. The tea was very shocking to me.
6. I and the other girl i had a crush on, Blessing are still close. we still check up on each other and chat almost too frequently just that she schools in AAU and i don't like her in that manner anymore. Just platonic lol. I may ask her her all about it tho when we meet... Idk6. Fast forward to 2021, i had a crush on this girl in the lecture i attended for jamb and it was obvious i liked her but i wasn't sure she did. I still didn't ask her out or tell her anything. I just didn't think I'm ready for a relationship especially when i had other priorities at the time. I just couldn't handle that kind of commitment or maybe I'm a shy guy idk.
7. Oh i forgot about one girl in church who told me she liked me (more like i found out about it and asked her if she did) and long story, short, i told her i wasn't interested💀8. 2022 now in uni. 100lvl. Crushed on 2 girls in my department but as time passed, i realised nah... Until the last day of our second semester exams and one of the girls and i walked to nadia together to get bread and took a bus back to our hostels. We had a really long and good conversation. Got to know more about each other and i guess the feelings rekindled but when we came back after the break i said nothing. At that time there was this other girl I've gotten close to from another department.
Anywho, i asked told the nadia girl how i felt but girl said "i was too young for her". Apparently she's 26. Shock of my life😂😂😂 bc girl was short with a slender body. You'd think she was 20 at best. She also said she had a boyfriend. So i kept my distance only for her to call me to tell me that i no longer keep her company lmao. Aunty rest.
Currently, i like this other girl from the other department. We often went to night class together in 100lvl. Cooked for each other and stuff. We went to the same lecture with the other lecture girl but we didn't really speak to each other until we got admitted into uniben.
Bro this girl is foine! But I'm scared of botching wha we have. What if she says she only likes me platonically? Mind you, i made up my mind to tell at the pharmacy bonfire. Convinced her to come after saying repeatedly tha she can't only for her to tag along with one other guy from pharmacy that has also een there since night class times. And i just let it go. Shot pissed me off and i never ever thought i could get jealous like that. She called me when our faculty finished our exams (we're both in bms faculty) and was like i no longer check up on her and shit. I apologised we talked but it's been pretty normal since then. I may tell her i may not idk.
And that's my pathetic love/relationship story.
It's this 14yr old giggly teenage love that I need to find me soon.🥹 Totally enjoyed reading this. Thank you for writing ❤️
reading this really felt like I was back in secondary school listening to my girls talk about crushes and the chaotic zoo in their bellies❤💕
My heart melted. I feel like a milk doughnut that was just torn in half. Omg, I'm about to cry. I love that you got to experience that type of soft love as a teenager. There's a certain innocence to it that's bringing tears to my eyes. What a stellar gentleman that was too! Love sweet die, wallahi. Thanks, Osas. This was really good.
Also, loved this issue so much, Osas. Thank you for reminding me once again that i wasted my teenagehood on unimportant things😭😭
I just honestly love love!🥹😂 It's how giggly and googley - eyed I was while reading this newsletter. I haven't experienced this fourteen-year old giggly love yet, but I just know I'm a lover girl! Hopefully soon sha. Obviously, this was well written as usual🥹❤️
Started experiencing my giggly fourteen year old love again at 20. Now 21 and it’s the best decision I ever made.
I totally enjoyed reading this. Love it
😂😂 sweeettt
I had almost the same experience but in my own case, he came from a different parish and it was just a three days convention in my church, he was the drummer and he was soooo sleek with it, his father was a senior pastor, he was so cute and we stole glances alotttt, he was finee.
After the service, outside the church, I was helping the moms distribute takeaways for the convention, I felt someone touched my hair and i turned to look, he had put a flower in my hair. God I love how we were so bold as teenagers! I smiled and he told me I was beautiful.
Convention was over and it was back to real life. I thought about it from time to time cause in our own case we didn’t exchange contacts we were younger than 14 👀 and I didn’t have a phone.
Fast forward to like 2 years later I had just joined a new school, I saw him walk out of this other school opposite my new school, I saw him and he saw me but I could tell he didn’t remember me, it broke me a little cause I know I spent those two years searching his name on facebook and i didn’t find it, I’m sure he would never use that name on social media cause it was a funny surname that I don’t remember anymore, but David was cute and there was this sparkle in his eyes and I can still see him being sleek with the drum sets in my memory.
🙈
When I say younger than 14 I mean way younger 😭, I mean he could have been older but from a young age I have always been a idk if to say lover, I was 11.
Also, loved this issue so much, Osas. Thank you for reminding me once again that i wasted my teenagehood on unimportant things😭😭